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The last few weeks have been a very difficult time for everybody in my family. Meri and I have decided not to get a divorce, at least not yet.

My mom lives in Jacksonville, which is about 2 hours away. We just recently star started speaking again, after a 3 year hiatus. So since I don’t have a support system down here in Orlando, Meri really wants to take the boys to Massachusetts. She is from there and has a lot of family around that would help with child care if one of us needed it.

My parents were divorced. my brother and I stayed with my mom and since my dad was in the Navy, he was all over the place. He was mostly in California and we were in Florida. I know all too well what it is like to grow up without a father around. I don’t want that for my boys. I don’t want to be several states away. I don’t want to be an occasional phone call and a random card in the mail. I don’t want to be that kind of dad.
I’ve discussed my situation with my IT Director at work and asked if I could work out of the Massachusetts branch. He told me that it was no problem at all and that I won’t really need to go into the branch at all and that I could just work from home. That was a major relief!! I didn’t really want to have to find another job up there.

We’ve decided that we aren’t going to get a divorce right away. We are going to get separated and see how that “works” for us, for approximately a year or so. If both of us feel that we want to remain together, then we’ll get a divorce. We are going to live in separate places. The boys will stay with both of us half of the time. We aren’t going to be so rigid about that schedule – we won’t force the kids to go to either place if they won’t want to.

We don’t want to jump right into getting divorced. Neither of us can say that we are 100% sure that we don’t want to be together.

This weekend, we’re going to list our house on the market as a short sale. We have a realtor friend that is going to discuss the ramifications of short selling our home, on our individual credit reports and on us financially.

I’m already feeling very sad that my family is going to be broken up. Hopefully, after our separation period, we’ll both decide that we really want to remain together and we can stay married.

bye bye family

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Looks like the family life is done. It appears that I’ve fucked up enough that I’ll be single pretty soon. Aaron is willing to move up to Massachusetts in lieu of seeing me anymore.

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The "luck" is that I rode my bike in today! I was going to go run some smallish errands at lunch today but that just got shot to hell…

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Speaking with my friend Bernard today via IM, we got on the subject of relationships and how much information we share with our “loved ones”, i.e. our family. While we were on the subject, he said something very profound so I felt the need to capture it and put it here.

These were taken in Jacksonville yesterday. Eli was playing in the van
while we were waiting for my mom to get home.

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Road trip to Jax…

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and Eli is already bored!

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On my way home from work while riding in a slight rain. Luckily, I was able to stop behind her and take a little picture…

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Genius

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